March/April 2000
Articles on the theme "Creating Wealth"
Musings onWealth
by Charles Larsen
A comparison between two 'successful'
writers and a woman who died from cancer.
Materialization
by Dr. Audrey Craft Davis
The role of the pineal gland, the Third
Eye. How thoughts mold energy to create 'things'.
Spiritual Wealth
by Dr. Neil Cooper
The importance of having a spiritual
practice to connect one with the real person within. The relationship between
spiritual and material wealth.
Road Blocks in Our Minds
by Rev. Cydné Su Battreall
How past bad experiences can influence
us negatively and how to remove the mental blocks.
Your Relationship to Wealth
by Patrick Plaskett
Defining what wealth means to you.
Tapping into wealth that already exists with the help of the right attitude.
Alchemy - the Quest for Gold
by Magzcha Westerman
The relationship between alchemy, the
Mystical Sciences and the year 2000.
The Source of Wealth
by Dr. Jeanne A. Bangtson
How wealth begins in the mind. The
use of guided imagery. Creating a plan and visualizing the result.
The Alchemy of Abundance
by Gary Hoffman
The relationship between alchemy, the
balancing of earth energies, and abundance.
Go Get More!
by Ron Graham
Getting what we want... an attitude
adjustment. Some helpful affirmations.
The Power of Your Truth
by Constance Snow
The writer's personal account of how
she achieved a wealthy life.
Manifesting Prosperity
by Edwina H. Holloway
Some practical tips for manifesting
prosperity. Tools we can all use.
Other Feature Articles
Natural Health Q & A
by Elizabeth Fenton & Renée Gillombardo
About relationships and recognizing
one's personality type.
2000 & Beyond!
by David Findlay
What is... Midfwifery?
by Donna Palmer, R.N., L.M.
The importance of the role of the midwife.
The difference between a licensed midwife (LM) and a certified nurse midwife
(CNM). The advantages of natural childbirth.
Minerals from Mother Earth
by Judy Power
Features stones for March and April:
stibnite and emerald.
Natural Health Q & A
by Elizabeth Fenton & Renée Gillombardo
Question
I have been involved in an intimate/committed relationship for two and a half years. I am most recently recognizing that I am not as happy in this relationship as I would like to be. What advice can you offer me?
Answer
Relationships can be a mixture of excitement and disappointment - or downright painful. Yet, many experience relationships with awe and energy. Do they know a secret that could make a difference for the rest? The adage "to thine own self be true" will provide the basis for unlocking the secret to experiencing satisfying and peaceful relationships. To be true to self requires that you have the knowledge of how you operate and how you relate to self and others.
The Peoplemap, a simple and effective personality profile instrument, provides an easy and effective method for understanding ourselves and our relationship. It has helped countless individuals, couples, groups, and organizations understand themselves and others in a way that has profoundly altered lives. The Peoplemap defines four personality types:-
Leader types see the big picture and are able to plan what needs to be done. They need to experience accomplishment, make things happen and need to be in control and manage. If you are a Leader type you want to be on top. You like success. The Leader type finds much satisfaction in planning, managing, and directing (hard people skills) the course of the relationship. Soft people skills are: being a good listener, being sensitive to other's feelings, using lots of praise and positive reinforcement, and being supportive vs. critical. Leader types who are successful and get to the top in their careers, life, marriage and family have both hard and soft people skills. If you relate to the hard people skills of the Leader type and find your relationship frustrating and unsatisfying, attempt to incorporate more empathy (soft people skills) into your style. If you relate more to the leader with the soft skills you may need to take more of a lead role (hard people skills) in the relationship. Also develop patience. Leader types tend to be impatient. However, they can evolve into magnificent leaders when their listening skills are allowed to develop. To quote Stephen Covey, "Seek first to understand and then be understood".
The People type LOVES people. People types are the best natural communicators of the four personality types. They connect and communicate at deep levels and they can be extroverts or introverts. People types hold family and work units together. They are team players and expert at conflict resolution (though they will avoid conflict at all costs). They should also be aware that their difficulty with conflict and their need to have everything run smoothly could present a problem. They listen and motivate all for one purpose: to keep people happy and together. People types need love, praise and positive reinforcement. If you find yourself drawn to the description of the People type, navigating through relationships at a time of difficulty will be challenging. It is the hard people skills the People type often lacks: standing up for oneself or putting oneself first. They have difficulty dealing with conflict openly and straightforwardly. If this combination of love and environment is missing, People types will likely experience sadness, depression or anxiety in a relationship. Give yourself permission to feel sad that someone you love is experiencing frustration or something is not running as smoothly as you would like, but realize also you can not influence every emotion or action that occurs. In this way, the People type is tending to their need for self-awareness, growth and personal development.
If you are a Free Spirit type, you probably own your own business or have a job that allows lots of flexibility and change. You have a desire for personal and professional freedom. You are self-directed and very creative. You do not need to be a leader, however, you do not like to be lead or be told how to complete a task or assignment. Free Spirits need physical adventure, intellectual excitement, fun and challenges in their life. They are 'out-of-the-box' thinkers and troubleshooters. They like new fads and trends and tend to express their joy and excitement openly. Free Spirits tend to be the risk-takers of the world. In relationships, it will be helpful to keep events interesting and varied. If you are a Free Spirit type and the thought of another relationship failing ushers in feelings of being trapped and bored, you are likely not paying attention to what you need. Free Spirits usually are tempted to 'live for today' and are often perceived as not investing much in the relationship. Free Spirits often have difficulty with planning and discipline. If you will make the effort to plan ahead, you can control the structure, thus leaving room for excitement and fun. Your fun and excitement for life can be regarded as a valid 'piece of the pie' if you will stay focused, more disciplined and finish a few projects.
The last of the four types is the Task type. The Task types are the busy bees of life or the worker bees of the world. They are the doers. They love to work on the projects that Leader types have mapped out. They seem to have endless energy for completing tasks with a tenacity unmatched by any other type. When the Free Spirit would leave a project out of boredom, the Task type is inspired and energized. They are organized, reliable, and detailed. So for the Task type person in a relationship you are the one who could be counted on to carry out the 'party plans' of a Leader type. What you may need to remind yourself of is that relationships can be joyful. Allow yourself more flexibility and less rigidity. If you are able to do this while in a relationship you may find you accept change better and with less resistance and fear. You might also learn to have more fun and experience more joy in your life in general.
Our hope is that with this basic understanding of each of the profiles, you will experience greater joy and peace that can be present in relationship. The Peoplemap helps us understand who we are and how we operate individually and in relationship with others. Margaret Wheatley, Ph.D, author of Leadership and the New Science states, "Anything that is alive, that organizes, forms a web." We are a system interrelating and interacting with each other. Relationships are the perfect place to test the waters of relating to and interacting with each other; stretching past individual and global comfort zones. What a great contribution to the new millennium.
Elizabeth Fenton, LMHC, and Renee Gillombardo, LMFT, owners
of Fenton and Gillombardo Associates, P.A., "Custom Designed Success
Strategies," offer coaching, consulting, training and psychotherapy,
emphasizing business and personal psychology. St. Petersburg FL (727) 823-6400.
CustomSuccess@aol.com.
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